DEAR MASSI,I used to think that getting married would be very simple. I am a 29-year-old man and have a good job.

Whilst my parents wanted me to get marrried some years I felt I could only do it when I was ready. I have been introduced to many women and even attended a singles event once.

However, I have noticed one thing with regards to all the women I have met.

At first they dont mention it but our women are very materialistic. They are interested in money, what job you have, what kind of house you have etc. I decide to lie to them and when I do they seem to ignore me.

One woman was very beautiful and didn't mention money at all. We met up a couple of times but then she just came out with it and wanted to know if I could buy her a house before we got married.

Even the women my parents introduce me to have the same problem. If it isn't them it's their father or uncle who comes out with the comment. Has our community gone to the dogs? Is money more important than values?

MM

Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

No our community has not 'gone to the dogs' has you so bluntly put it.

I would say having met so many women you are simply pointing out the one thing that bothers you the most. Im sure there are other things in your mind when you meet a prospective partner but you are simply concentrating on one issue.

Okay there are both men and women to whom money matters. And they will always put it before everything else. And this is the case in all communties.

But you cannot say that is true of everyone. Next time you are introduced to someone try looking at the plus points rather than waiting for them to mention something about money and then quickly making a run for it.

You might find that another side of the personality shines through that even you find attractive.