I have been married for seven years and have two wonderful children. I used to work before I got married and took a break for a while whilst our children grew up.

I have recently achieved promotion at work and find myself spending more and more time there. My husband has been supportive and has taken on the extra responsibilities at home.

In my family this is something that was never heard of. My sisters say I am lucky because they live with their in-laws and their husbands frown on them going out to work.

During my work hours though I have struck up a friendship with a man who also works in my department. We spend a lot of time together and there is obvious chemistry.

Last week he asked me if I wanted to take things further. I didn't agree but I didn't say no either. I was never in a relationship before I got married and find the whole idea exciting. I feel a new sense of purpose at work and am flattered this man finds me attractive in this way. He is also married. I am so confused. What shall I do?

JP Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

The most important question you need to ask yourself is whether this work relationship is worth jeopardising your marriage over. Your husband seems quite understanding and this new found excitement might not last as long as you think.

How would you feel if your husband was contemplating what you are? It is easy sometimes to think the grass is greener on the other side but that is not always the case. Flattery can be decieving.

Do you know exactly what this new friend of yours is like? Have you thought about the repurcussions for both and his family? It seems you haven't.

I suggest you look at how you can bring back the excitement into your marriage so you are not tempted to look elsewhere. It may seem simple advice but in situations like this the simple answer is usually the right one. Your husband and children must come first.