Dear Massi, a girl at college keeps telling lies about me. She has told people that I am going out with this guy and I have not even spoke about him. She acts all religious but she is a big gossip. She talks about other people all the time.

I confronted her and she says she didn’t say anything. Now, I have got a taped conversation of her saying things about me. We used to be friends at school but since we came to college we drifted apart.

I have never said anything about her and I still see her as a friend. But the things she says are really bad and ruining my reputation. She knows I am not into dating and things and knows it hurts me.

Massi says, I think you need to have a real adult conversation with her.

And tell her to stop making things up. I would also confront her with the recording. I think she needs to know how much this is affecting you as a person. Maybe she feels aggrieved that you are no longer friends like you used to be.

But don’t think that acting the same way as her will resolve anything. It will only make things worse.