With the wedding season well and truly under way I was back doing what I do best this week serving.

But rather than dish out the food and be on my way, I actually got a chance to talk to the groom this time. All bright eyed and naive, this fellow had no idea what he was letting himself in for.

Maybe he knew who I was or he simply felt he had to make conversation with one of the poor fellows who was serving food at his wedding.

Nonetheless he asked me a question that got me thinking.

"So, what's the secret of a good marriage?"

I asked that question to this elderly gentlemen once and he just swore at me and then started sobbing like a little kid.

Ever since, I had thought the question was one you should never even attempt answering.

But suddenly it came to me like a Tugay volley out of the blue. My response was simple.."The secret to a good marriage is to be prepared to take orders.' If you cannot take orders then you will never ever have a successful marriage. If there are any men out there who disagree please free to write in, but please ask permission first.

There will be men who will be in denial and think they never take orders from their wife but they realise deep down I speak the truth.

It begins innocently enough like "Can we go shopping?" This soon becomes "Get in the car and let's go shopping."

"Would you like some dinner?" becomes "Have your dinner."

"Have you paid the gas bill?" will later become "Pay the gas bill."

Most importantly, and all new wannabe grooms need to remember this, there will be times after a couple of years when you will miss not being ordered about.

Then your kids will order you about and will take over the reigns from your wife.

Orders are what makes a marriage successful and if you are not prepared to take orders you will get into an argument.

You will lose the argument and then you will wish you had just acted on the order in the first place.

My innocent groom seemed to laugh it off as one big joke. Moments later he was whisked away back on the stage because his wife wanted to have some pictures taken with her relatives.