THIS is first time I have written to anyone like yourself and I hope you can help me.

I used to know this guy two years ago and we were very close. When we broke up he took it very hard. He was always calling me at first wanting to know if I had changed my mind or making silly excuses up just to see me.

Eventually I think he just gave up and decided I was never going to change my mind. I have moved on and I thought he had. But recently I saw him when I was out shopping. I was with my new partner to whom I am getting married very soon. He stared at us both and I was very hesitant to say hello. However, since that time he has got hold new phone number from somewhere and is now threatening to tell my new partner everything about me and what we did together.

I don't what to do. Why can't he just forget about the past? I am really afraid of what he might do.

J in Preston

Massi says,

It's hard when you break up but it's even harder when the other person takes it so badly.

If you've already spoken to your ex and explained to him how you feel and he

still doesn't understand there's very little you can do.

I would suggest you speak to your new partner and tell him about your ex and the way he is behaving. So if your ex contacts him he will know what to expect.

Anyway I am sure your new partner if he trusts you and you are both honest with each other will be very supportive towards you.

Don't worry so much because the only foolish person in this scenario is your ex who can't get on with his life and wants to be petty about things.