DEAR MASSI, I am in a terrible situation and cannot understand why this has happened to me. I was with a girl for over two years and we were always together.

The first year went by and it always seemed we would get married in the end. Everyone said how great we were together. I even introduced her to members of my family like my sister and brother.

Then a couple of months ago the world has turned completely upside down. She became slightly withdrawn and didn't want to spend so much time with me. I didn't think too much of it and decided it was OK if we spent less time with each other.

Whilst away from her I started spending more and more of my time with her best friend. She has a great personality and I thought there can't be anything wrong with it.

Her best friend started telling me about my girlfriend and what kind of things she had done in the past and how she was spending time with this other guy we knew behind my back. I also got told that when I dropped her off she was going off to see this other guy almost immediately.

I was gutted and couldn't believe it. I confronted her and she denied everything and said they were all lies.

She became so angry hasn't spoken to me again. Her best friend who'd told me all these rumours also doesn't want to speak to me again. The strange thing within a week both of them were talking whilst I was left out in the cold.

Since then I have found out some other things about the whole situation. It turns out she was seeing someone else and her best friend was in on this little game of theirs. I know you get so many letters about guys being liars and so forth but this game of theirs went on for a whole month.

Even my friends won't take me seriously any more because of the way I got stung. It's a nightmare.

JD

Blackburn

MASSI SAYS,

Your story is a very sad one and you probably think things will never get better. But that is not the case.

It seems both your girlfriend and her friend wanted you to feel guilty and make it look as if you had done the wrong thing by not trusting your partner. No doubt they probably told everyone else how possessive you had been even though it was a pack of lies.

If this was their idea of finding out whether you were trustworthy or not, it was a cruel and heartless way of doing so. It was very stupid of them to think the truth wouldn't come out in the end.

Deep down you must be hurt but in the long-run you will realise it was all for the best. You are so much better off without your ex-girlfriend and her friend and they will find out sooner or later they can't play these stupid games forever. They will both be at the wrong end of a similar joke because that is what happens to people like that.

One thing you shouldn't do is to feel as if every woman you ever meet in the future is going to behave in such a way. It's going to be tough after having been 'stung' like you were but aren't you glad now you didn't actually marry this girl. Imagine going through this whole game whilst you were married.