DEAR MASSI,

I have decided to get married next year because of my parents wishes.

I had put it off for as long as possible. Whilst at university I met a number of different women and all of them seemed to have one thing in common they were all too possessive. I have come to the conclusion that this is common trait amongst our Asian women. They seem to want to know everything about you.

I worry that I when I do marry I might get lumbered with such a woman. I was in a relationship which lasted about nine months and during that time she always wanted me to be near her and with her. I had to make up excuses so I could spend time with my mates.

Am I worrying for nothing and is there anything I can do?

TN

Blackburn

MASSI SAYS,

I would say you are indeed being a bit silly. You cannot judge us from your experiences with a couple of women.

In all honesty if you use words such as 'lumbered' it goes to show you have a lot to learn about women. I am sure there are women out there who will say Asian men are far too possessive. What would you say to them?

With regards to the relationship you mentioned do you think it is possible you might have done something for her to act in such in a way.

I suggest you stop making yourself out to be some sort of 'Casanova' who has all these women being possessive about him and learn to treat women as individuals. Not everyone is the same.