DEAR MASSI, I write regarding the letter 'I'm losing all faith in ever pairing off' in Asian Image (issue 69).

I have become bored with the whole dating lark.

I say this because I have been through it and although I have been asked to get married I have always shyed away from it.

Recently though I have been looking to get married and have noticed there is very little choice for women who are over the age of twenty-five. I know its cruel but the standard of men has decreased. I just wanted to urge men to stop being so 'feminine'. I have noticed that men in their thirties who are not married tend not to want to make life changing decisions so quickly and are run-down with the same marriage issues many of us women are. It is a simple observation I have made. I also think some men want to be mothered and when I have met a man who is not married and 'getting on' this is the one trait that annoys me the most.

What also puts me off is when I see some married men acting as if they are single. They get married from abroad and then think they can carry on living the lifestyle of a single man.

It should not be the case. I would rather not get married at all than to have to live with someone I do not love or have something special to share with. In our community this might not seem the 'thing to do' but unless our Asian men change their ways do I have another choice?

PP