DEAR MASSI,

You had a letter from a woman who said she was being told how to act, dress and live by her husband.

It is easy for men to say how we should do things because they don't know what it is like. Some men get all possessive because they are all insecure about themselves. And they use tradition to back-up their arguments.

And they always compare how their own family behaves and how you should.

But the final decision of how a woman wants to behave is up to the woman herself. Most women I know go through the same issues with their husbands.

A lot can be done by just explaining to your husband how you feel.

H

Nelson