Think about what your family might want to get out of Christmas this year.

Recognise how your family is changing and discuss and plan how you all want to spend Christmas.

Negotiate how time will be spent; make an effort to understand the position of others, ask lots of questions and know what you are prepared to negotiate and what you won't give up.

Don't spend all of your time looking out for others.

Think about how you fit in, and remember that patience and compromise will probably win the day.

Talk realistically and well in advance of Christmas about spending.

Money is one of the main causes of arguments within couples so agreeing on a budget for Christmas in advance should be a big help.

If someone has planned a surprise for you, appreciate the effort and thought behind it.

If you feel in danger of being isolated or bored during the holidays, join a group that has activities during this time.

Being with supportive people who share your interests is vital to combating depression.

Remember that while good food and drink can be a part of Christmas cheer, when taken in excess they are also depressants.

At your office Christmas party don't get drunk.

Getting drunk can lead to embarrassing consequences for the length of your employment.