Being ‘straight’ doesn’t make me a better person

A central principle common to all world religions is the idea that we should behave towards others in the way in which we would expect others to behave towards us. Christ devotes much of his teaching to this theme, building on the Old Testament injunction that we should love our neighbours as we love ourselves.

“Judge not, that ye be not judged”, and “Do to others as you would have them do to you”, are two of his most powerful, and enduring, messages about how individuals, local communities, and whole societies, should live peacefully, and happily, with others.

Given the key importance of these ideas to Christianity, why are some church leaders – in the Roman Catholic and Anglican Churches in particular – not practicing what Christ taught, on the issue of people’s sexuality?

I happen to be, in the modern jargon, “straight”. It doesn’t make me a better person.

I didn’t choose to be straight. It’s how I am. It would be no different if I were gay.

I would neither be a better, nor a worse, person because of it. It would simply be how I was.

Because I am straight, I have a right to marry a woman. But if I were a gay man, or a lesbian woman, in love with another gay man, or lesbian woman, I can get to a half-way house with a “civil partnership”, but the law currently says that I cannot marry.

Some Church leaders say the law should stay that way, on the spurious grounds that the sanctity and importance of heterosexual marriage will somehow be damaged. How, why?

I know of no-one who is married who feels threatened by the idea that another couple, same sex, wishes to cement their love for each other by marrying.

Why should this not be a matter of celebration, rather than of prohibition?

And how on earth do these church leaders square their present stand with those biblical injunctions about treating others as you would expect to be treated yourself?

Comments(14)

Joseph Yossarian says...
12:03pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Not very often you'll hear me say this Jack, but you are absolutely spot on.

I had the pleasure of attending the civil ceremony of one of your colleagues in the house of commons.
It was a happy occasion and only a cynic (such as I) would feel the slightly sour taste of a former vicar not being allowed to marry in a church.

Commenting says...
12:56pm Thu 8 Mar 12

I vehemently disagree with you Jack and I believe that you have cynically used the words from the gospel in such a way to justify your argument

don't worry be happy says...
1:07pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Well said Jack, you have gone up in my estimation.

Joseph Yossarian says...
1:39pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Commenting wrote:
I vehemently disagree with you Jack and I believe that you have cynically used the words from the gospel in such a way to justify your argument
See any priest for further examples of such tactics.

JohnnyDale says...
1:56pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Its very rare for me to agree with you or your politics Jack, but you're right here. All due credit to you for that.

Unfortunately there is at least one foaming mouthed, homophobic, evolution-denying religious nutter with a regular column win the Telegraph who won't.

Joseph Yossarian says...
2:17pm Thu 8 Mar 12

JohnnyDale wrote:
Its very rare for me to agree with you or your politics Jack, but you're right here. All due credit to you for that. Unfortunately there is at least one foaming mouthed, homophobic, evolution-denying religious nutter with a regular column win the Telegraph who won't.
Add:
Bigoted
Extreme
Mysogenist
Fundamentalist
Divisive
intolerant
Dogmatic
Vengeful
Discriminatory
onto the list.....

sean_brfc says...
3:48pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Well said. I'm sick of the church / religion trying to hold society back.

Between_the_lions says...
6:53pm Thu 8 Mar 12

Joseph Yossarian wrote:
JohnnyDale wrote:
Its very rare for me to agree with you or your politics Jack, but you're right here. All due credit to you for that. Unfortunately there is at least one foaming mouthed, homophobic, evolution-denying religious nutter with a regular column win the Telegraph who won't.
Add:
Bigoted
Extreme
Mysogenist
Fundamentalist
Divisive
intolerant
Dogmatic
Vengeful
Discriminatory
onto the list.....
Well said.

ToffeeGuy says...
1:23am Fri 9 Mar 12

Why is this article just about Christianity's attitude to same-sex marriage? Why aren't you criticising other religions and faiths?

How can the LT publish this opinion without looking at how other faiths treat this matter? Yet again, and in the recent words of the BBC Director General, Christianity is expected to have 'broad shoulders' to accept criticism of it's leaders.

Joseph Yossarian says...
8:52am Fri 9 Mar 12

ToffeeGuy wrote:
Why is this article just about Christianity's attitude to same-sex marriage? Why aren't you criticising other religions and faiths? How can the LT publish this opinion without looking at how other faiths treat this matter? Yet again, and in the recent words of the BBC Director General, Christianity is expected to have 'broad shoulders' to accept criticism of it's leaders.
Possibly because of high up christian priests making a lot of noise on the matter, hence the response.

manyarecalled says...
9:06am Fri 9 Mar 12

Strange that ''straight'' people are increasingly choosing to live together without getting married , while the opposite appears to be happening with gay couples.
I always thought that marriage was for people to provide a stable environment for children .
what is worrying is the number of intelligent couples who are not having children .
why this is the case , I don't know.

Revtel says...
1:44pm Fri 9 Mar 12

Come on, Jack.

Where is your condemnation of the other faiths on this matter?

How come you are not addressing your comments to the thousands of Islamic believers in your own constituency?

Ah yes, I remember - Christianity is an easy target, and you, jackstraw, are a coward.

Shame on you.

ToffeeGuy says...
11:16pm Fri 9 Mar 12

Mr Straw, I would be interested to know how your belief in “Do to others as you would have them do to you” is matched to your support for wars in Iraq and Afganistan. Quite a paradox.

karolgadge says...
1:01pm Mon 12 Mar 12

Do I understand from this article that Jack is about to turn the other cheek and indeed love those who hate him? Will he don the habit of a Capuchin Franciscan and teach us by example?
The spectacle of a senior Labour politician attempting to teach theology reminds me of Margaret Thatcher and her ridiculous attempts to don the clerical collar. Some may recall how, in 1979, she quoted St Francis on the steps of 10 Downing St. Others may recall squirming with embarrassment (as I did) when she addressed the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland.

Now it appears that Jack Straw is about to join the ranks of those lecturing on Christian doctrine.
I look forward to the next instalment, where Jack Straw can give us his take on The Prophet's (pbuh) admonitions on the relationship between men and women. But I feel I may well have a very long wait indeed.

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