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Lancashire domestic abuse victims urged to speak out

Lancashire Telegraph: Lancashire Police: Valentine's Day 'can lead to violence' Lancashire Police: Valentine's Day 'can lead to violence'

VICTIMS of domestic abuse are being urged to seek help this Valentine's Day.

The Take the Step, Make the Call campaign was launched by Lancashire's Police and Crime Commissioner, on behalf of the Safer Lancashire group, to raise awareness of the different ways people can be affected by domestic abuse.

Clive Grunshaw said that the pressure and expectation around February 14 is often a trigger point in abusive relationships.

He said: “For many men and women in Lancashire, Valentine's Day will not be a day to celebrate their relationship but another day of living in fear of abuse.

“Abuse may mean being punched and kicked by your partner, but an absence of physical injury does not mean you are not a victim.

“Having your finances controlled, being prevented from seeing friends and family, being forced to have sex or having insults hurled at you are all signs of abuse.

“The Take the Step, Make the Call campaigns aims to connect with victims of all types of abuse, and empower them to take action and get help. I'm pleased to say the campaign has already experienced positive results for domestic abuse services across Lancashire, and I hope it can make a real difference to the lives of those suffering at the hands of an abusive partner.”

For more information, call the 24-hour helpline on 01772 201601.

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9:41pm Fri 14 Feb 14

the white witch says...

It`s good to hear that there is people waiting to help those abused, but for the victim it`s not as easy as people think it is for them to come forward and take the action needed to be taken.
In some cases the victim cannot get away from the abuser and there are cases when the victim is that scared that they cannot leave the abuser. When or if the victim does get free it`s not easy to come forward, it takes a lot of courage and guts to come forward especially if you got to relive the whole abuse scene`s again. it`s scarey
It`s good to hear that there is people waiting to help those abused, but for the victim it`s not as easy as people think it is for them to come forward and take the action needed to be taken. In some cases the victim cannot get away from the abuser and there are cases when the victim is that scared that they cannot leave the abuser. When or if the victim does get free it`s not easy to come forward, it takes a lot of courage and guts to come forward especially if you got to relive the whole abuse scene`s again. it`s scarey the white witch
  • Score: 3

6:08am Sat 15 Feb 14

khakkij says...

I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter khakkij
  • Score: 3

8:50am Sat 15 Feb 14

the white witch says...

khakkij wrote:
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong.
As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from.
To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this.
Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x
[quote][p][bold]khakkij[/bold] wrote: I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter[/p][/quote]You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong. As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from. To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this. Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x the white witch
  • Score: 1

3:04pm Sat 15 Feb 14

sen c b l says...

the white witch wrote:
khakkij wrote:
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong.
As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from.
To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this.
Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x
I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian!
Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'!

I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.
[quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]khakkij[/bold] wrote: I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter[/p][/quote]You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong. As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from. To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this. Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x[/p][/quote]I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian! Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'! I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is. sen c b l
  • Score: 0

6:18pm Sat 15 Feb 14

the white witch says...

sen c b l wrote:
the white witch wrote:
khakkij wrote:
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong.
As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from.
To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this.
Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x
I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian!
Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'!

I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.
You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x
[quote][p][bold]sen c b l[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]khakkij[/bold] wrote: I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter[/p][/quote]You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong. As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from. To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this. Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x[/p][/quote]I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian! Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'! I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.[/p][/quote]You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x the white witch
  • Score: 0

8:13pm Sat 15 Feb 14

sen c b l says...

the white witch wrote:
sen c b l wrote:
the white witch wrote:
khakkij wrote:
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong.
As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from.
To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this.
Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x
I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian!
Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'!

I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.
You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x
At it again I see.
Some people never change. Oh did I say people as in human. What I meant was the devil on a broomstick!
[quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]sen c b l[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]khakkij[/bold] wrote: I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter[/p][/quote]You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong. As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from. To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this. Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x[/p][/quote]I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian! Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'! I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.[/p][/quote]You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x[/p][/quote]At it again I see. Some people never change. Oh did I say people as in human. What I meant was the devil on a broomstick! sen c b l
  • Score: 0

10:04pm Sat 15 Feb 14

the white witch says...

sen c b l wrote:
the white witch wrote:
sen c b l wrote:
the white witch wrote:
khakkij wrote:
I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter
You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong.
As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from.
To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this.
Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x
I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian!
Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'!

I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.
You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x
At it again I see.
Some people never change. Oh did I say people as in human. What I meant was the devil on a broomstick!
come on you can all do better than that, this is the most fun i have had on the telegraph, especially now the ogre has joined the conversation to help the troll ha ha ha ha
[quote][p][bold]sen c b l[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]sen c b l[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]the white witch[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]khakkij[/bold] wrote: I totally agree., i was in a really violent abusive relationship for 6 years., we were on and off but at times i thought i would never be free of him., i am ashamed now but i loved him, or convinced myself because i was petrified of him, he was so cruel in drink and the beatings i received., looking back were horrendous., at the time i had 2 children from my first marriage, and even now., i hate myself for putting them through it., my youngest is now 21., and my oldest 25., and i got shut of him in 2008., and luckily we are 3 musketeers., they blamed themselves because they could hear many times me being beaten and they couldnt help., we had counselling, & i was lucky as now back to the strong girl i always was., there is help out there and somehow please find the strength to contact police., or a friend/family member/colleague who you can confide in to help you. The Police were fantastic with me, wish centres & you will get there. It took me 6 years, its the hardest thing i have ever done., i have a loving family who helped me get through it., they never knew the truth because i lied to them., you do when your in the situation. I won my house in court after 3 long years and fought him all the way., i looked him in the eyes., my sons & family all with me & said i have finally put you where you belong., in the gutter[/p][/quote]You are right, and for you to find the strength and buck up the courage as i did to get free i admire you. In the gutter is where people like that do belong. As you and me has both been there in that situation i think we are two people who can appreciate where others is coming from. To fully understand the emotions, feelings, and upside down world of a victim i think you need to experience what happens altho i don`t mean that in a horrible way and would never wish that abuse on anyone. Even to this day i would help those going through this. Myself is living (thankgod) proof that a victim`s life can be turned around for the good as i have now been very happily married to a wonderful man who understood what i went through and stood by me to get back to being a better me with faith & confidence to start again in life. But that still took a few years for me to trust someone again. x[/p][/quote]I don't have any sympathy for you at all for your previous experiance. I would put it down to your personality and the treatment of other fellow human mankind. Only yesterday the utter **** comments you were posting concerning the poor lady who tripped and fell bruising her arms and legs with the puppy on top of her there you were with absolute nasty blogs, the dog being infected just because the lady just happened to be an asian! Have no pity with you love none at all. Why else would you choose to be recognised as a 'witch'! I'm the spiritualist by the way. The anti sorcerer to you that is.[/p][/quote]You see, all that abuse you got has rubbed off on you, now you have the bitterness to show your true self, maybe you got what you deserved for being a bitter obnoxious old woman, tut tut tut, never mind i`m sure there is a spell out there somewhere to try and change you from the troll you have become. ha ha ha ha ha or maybe not. x[/p][/quote]At it again I see. Some people never change. Oh did I say people as in human. What I meant was the devil on a broomstick![/p][/quote]come on you can all do better than that, this is the most fun i have had on the telegraph, especially now the ogre has joined the conversation to help the troll ha ha ha ha the white witch
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