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Distraught family brand Nelson grave thieves 'HEARTLESS'

Lancashire Telegraph: Clare Frear has branded thieves ‘heartless’ for taking items from the grave of her baby son Jayden Clare Frear has branded thieves ‘heartless’ for taking items from the grave of her baby son Jayden

A FAMILY are distraught after thieves stole toys and ornaments left on their baby’s grave.

Clare Frear, 28, branded the culprits heartless for taking the items from her son Jayden's grave in Nelson.

Little Jayden was only three weeks and six days old when he died of bronchial pneumonia in September 2012.

His family launched a charity called Jayden’s Legacy: Angels in Heaven to help other children who suffer from the same disease.

The campaign helped pay for Jayden’s headstone at Marsden Lane cemetery, in Nelson.

But two Thomas the Tank Engine toys left to mark what would have been his first birthday, small angels and Christmas snowglobes have been snatched.

Mother-of-three Clare, of Hendon Road, Nelson, said: "I can’t believe anyone would do something like this.

"It’s just so heartless and disrespectful.”

Jayden was born with birth defect on September 1, 2012. Clare, who has two other children, Declan, 10, and Krystal, three, went to feed him his bottle at around 3.50am on September 28, only to find he had stopped breathing and his nose was bleeding.

An ambulance was called which arrived at her home at around 4.20am. He was taken to Royal Blackburn Hospital but doctors were unable to save him.

His family organised a sponsored head shave and a fund-raising pub crawl around Colne to raise £300 for the charity.

Clare, who attended Colne Primet High School, said: “We go to visit his grave around four times a week and leave little things there around once a week. At the end of the day he is still my baby and he is still Declan and Krystal’s brother.

“We leave little gifts and things to show we always remember him. The toys were left for his first birthday on September 1.

"We’ve left snow globes as well which have been taken.

“Pretty much every month something seems to go missing, it’s unbelievable. It does seem to be getting worse now though.

“It is awful that Declan and Krystal put little things on Jayden’s grave and then see them get taken. Why would someone do that?”

Coun Tommy Cooney, who represents the Marsden ward in Nelson, said: “This is absolutely shocking to hear.

"I am totally disgusted that someone could do such a thing.

“I will be getting on to the police inspector and checking everything that can be done is being done to catch the criminal who has committed this shocking crime.”

A police spokesman said a report of a theft at the cemetery had been made to them.

Anybody with information is asked to call Lancashire Constabulary on 101 or Crimestoppers, anonymously, on 0800 555 111.

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9:10am Wed 22 Jan 14

HarryBosch says...

It's about simple respect. Sadly it is a sign of the times that some people just don't know how to respect other people and other people's property. Nothing is sacred anymore. My initial thought was that it's the parents who are not teaching their children about respect but then again, it may well be that it is just as likely that the people committing these acts may well be the parents themselves. A sign of the times in which we are living.
Despicable!
It's about simple respect. Sadly it is a sign of the times that some people just don't know how to respect other people and other people's property. Nothing is sacred anymore. My initial thought was that it's the parents who are not teaching their children about respect but then again, it may well be that it is just as likely that the people committing these acts may well be the parents themselves. A sign of the times in which we are living. Despicable! HarryBosch
  • Score: 16

9:11am Wed 22 Jan 14

ron1946 says...

unfortunately a sign of the times hope they catch the bastards
unfortunately a sign of the times hope they catch the bastards ron1946
  • Score: 15

9:32am Wed 22 Jan 14

GracesDad says...

While I sympathise with the family, I can only imagine these items have been stolen by little kids who know no better.
While I sympathise with the family, I can only imagine these items have been stolen by little kids who know no better. GracesDad
  • Score: 1

9:58am Wed 22 Jan 14

useyourhead says...

GracesDad wrote:
While I sympathise with the family, I can only imagine these items have been stolen by little kids who know no better.
If they are big enough to be out and wandering round graveyards alone then they ought to know better, there are any number of possibilities, parents to skint to buy toys for their own kids or they could even be being stolen and sold on ebay etc, sounds far fetched but people are finding any way they can to generate even just a few pounds of extra income. If the family have space it may be safer to have a little area at home for such tributes and simply visit and leave a flower. sad times when folk are stealing from dead children though.
[quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: While I sympathise with the family, I can only imagine these items have been stolen by little kids who know no better.[/p][/quote]If they are big enough to be out and wandering round graveyards alone then they ought to know better, there are any number of possibilities, parents to skint to buy toys for their own kids or they could even be being stolen and sold on ebay etc, sounds far fetched but people are finding any way they can to generate even just a few pounds of extra income. If the family have space it may be safer to have a little area at home for such tributes and simply visit and leave a flower. sad times when folk are stealing from dead children though. useyourhead
  • Score: 11

10:24am Wed 22 Jan 14

Pudgeandcreaturesmummy says...

It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions
24.com/cctv_cameras_
at_walton_lane_cemet
ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support. Pudgeandcreaturesmummy
  • Score: -1

10:34am Wed 22 Jan 14

Mikeee47 says...

SCUM!!
SCUM!! Mikeee47
  • Score: 9

10:51am Wed 22 Jan 14

GracesDad says...

Pudgeandcreaturesmum
my
wrote:
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions

24.com/cctv_cameras_

at_walton_lane_cemet

ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
You don't think this is a bit over the top?

I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.
[quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support.[/p][/quote]You don't think this is a bit over the top? I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave. GracesDad
  • Score: 13

11:22am Wed 22 Jan 14

Pudgeandcreaturesmummy says...

GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum

my
wrote:
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions


24.com/cctv_cameras_


at_walton_lane_cemet


ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
You don't think this is a bit over the top?

I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.
I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem.
I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?
[quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support.[/p][/quote]You don't think this is a bit over the top? I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.[/p][/quote]I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem. I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive? Pudgeandcreaturesmummy
  • Score: -4

11:41am Wed 22 Jan 14

GracesDad says...

Pudgeandcreaturesmum
my
wrote:
GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum


my
wrote:
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions



24.com/cctv_cameras_



at_walton_lane_cemet



ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
You don't think this is a bit over the top?

I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.
I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem.
I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?
Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg.
[quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support.[/p][/quote]You don't think this is a bit over the top? I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.[/p][/quote]I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem. I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?[/p][/quote]Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg. GracesDad
  • Score: 10

11:44am Wed 22 Jan 14

Izanears says...

Having had a stillborn and much wanted baby many years ago I can share Clare's grief at her loss, but I cannot go along with turning a child's grave into a mini Toys R Us. It is only to expected that if you put temptation in peoples way they will steal then toys.
Having had a stillborn and much wanted baby many years ago I can share Clare's grief at her loss, but I cannot go along with turning a child's grave into a mini Toys R Us. It is only to expected that if you put temptation in peoples way they will steal then toys. Izanears
  • Score: 14

11:47am Wed 22 Jan 14

Pudgeandcreaturesmummy says...

GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum

my
wrote:
GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum



my
wrote:
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions




24.com/cctv_cameras_




at_walton_lane_cemet




ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
You don't think this is a bit over the top?

I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.
I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem.
I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?
Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg.
I'm sure you can understand though, that although the items listed in the article may be of low monetary value, they are of great sentimental value.
Fingers crossed this article alone might make these people think twice about their actions
[quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support.[/p][/quote]You don't think this is a bit over the top? I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.[/p][/quote]I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem. I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?[/p][/quote]Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg.[/p][/quote]I'm sure you can understand though, that although the items listed in the article may be of low monetary value, they are of great sentimental value. Fingers crossed this article alone might make these people think twice about their actions Pudgeandcreaturesmummy
  • Score: 2

4:41pm Wed 22 Jan 14

clare jaydens mummy says...

If i want to buy my baby toys and ornaments that is my choice so stop with all the negative comments he deserves to be left in piece not scumbags stealing from him
If i want to buy my baby toys and ornaments that is my choice so stop with all the negative comments he deserves to be left in piece not scumbags stealing from him clare jaydens mummy
  • Score: 7

4:45pm Wed 22 Jan 14

clare jaydens mummy says...

Pudgeandcreaturesmum
my
wrote:
GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum


my
wrote:
GracesDad wrote:
Pudgeandcreaturesmum




my
wrote:
It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is
http://www.petitions





24.com/cctv_cameras_





at_walton_lane_cemet





ry

Thank you in advance for your support.
You don't think this is a bit over the top?

I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.
I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem.
I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?
Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg.
I'm sure you can understand though, that although the items listed in the article may be of low monetary value, they are of great sentimental value.
Fingers crossed this article alone might make these people think twice about their actions
Stef its not just toys that have gone ornaments have too thanks for that i really know what u think now
[quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]GracesDad[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Pudgeandcreaturesmum my[/bold] wrote: It doesn't matter how old the thieves are, they still shouldn't be taking things of any ones graves. Clare is such a brave lady, and to repeatedly find things missing from baby Jayden's resting place is not only heart breaking for her but her other children too. In order to try and do something productive to help prevent these crimes happening Clare has set up an online petition asking for CCTV cameras to be installed in the cemetery. If every one reading this article could take two minutes to sign it, may be it would be a big enough deterrent to stop these low lives, and if they're not deterred may he it'll identify them and help the police to prosecute. The link is http://www.petitions 24.com/cctv_cameras_ at_walton_lane_cemet ry Thank you in advance for your support.[/p][/quote]You don't think this is a bit over the top? I have a childs grave too, my daughter died just before her 5th birthday and to be quite honest, I don't want CCTV cameras pointing at me when I go and visit her grave.[/p][/quote]I don't think it's over the top in context to the issue at hand. It's being put forwards for people to watch mourners and grieving families, but as a deterrent for the low lives that are stealing things that are precious to the families who have found their items missing. I'm sure Clare isn't the only one who has experienced this problem. I can fully understand not wanting to be watched while visiting a grave, but I do feel if these crimes continue then having some form of servalence is going to be a nessisary evil. Surely anything that could help identify the culprits in these crimes would be positive?[/p][/quote]Well I wholeheartedly disagree. Placing CCTV cameras in cemetaries to prevent low value items being taken from graves is like using a hammer to crack an egg.[/p][/quote]I'm sure you can understand though, that although the items listed in the article may be of low monetary value, they are of great sentimental value. Fingers crossed this article alone might make these people think twice about their actions[/p][/quote]Stef its not just toys that have gone ornaments have too thanks for that i really know what u think now clare jaydens mummy
  • Score: -2

5:54pm Wed 22 Jan 14

StopDeludingYourself says...

Hi Clare,

Whilst I appreciate the need for you to come on here and defend yourself. I would strongly advise to stay away from the comments section on this articles. You will always get people in life who agree and disagree with things, and some may offend / upset you.

What has happened shouldn't have, that is clear to all of us.
Hi Clare, Whilst I appreciate the need for you to come on here and defend yourself. I would strongly advise to stay away from the comments section on this articles. You will always get people in life who agree and disagree with things, and some may offend / upset you. What has happened shouldn't have, that is clear to all of us. StopDeludingYourself
  • Score: 2

6:14pm Wed 22 Jan 14

POW WOW says...

These grave robbers are nothing more than pond life !!!!!!!!
These grave robbers are nothing more than pond life !!!!!!!! POW WOW
  • Score: 3

10:42pm Wed 22 Jan 14

useyourhead says...

I have every sympathy because it was my mums flowers that were stolen from Burnley crematorium in June 2012, the thieves were caught and sentenced and I hope they find these no marks too.
I have every sympathy because it was my mums flowers that were stolen from Burnley crematorium in June 2012, the thieves were caught and sentenced and I hope they find these no marks too. useyourhead
  • Score: 2

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