Dear Massi I had been with my girlfriend for 10 years and got together when we were 18. We were both madly in love. We were of different religions, me being a Sikh and her a Hindu. We were always scared of telling our parents, however, we did so a couple of years ago as we wanted to get married.

Last year she met my parents and they accepted her for who she was, however her parents still didn't approve.

To make her life easier she bought her own place to move to only a couple of miles away from her family.

She then had doubts about our future, about the religion difference. I was happy our kids would have two different faiths.

Her brother and I both said to her to move back home as this could help with getting them on side, but she didn’t.

Recently, we met up a few times, once when she was really emotional. She said it was being on her own causing this.

She now says she doesn't love me. I asked what brought this on, she said religion, the house thing.

She says she loves me but not in love with me any more and you can't build a marriage on that. She says she sees me as her best friend.

I asked how long she's felt like this, she said she didn't know, it might have been there a while but she thinks she may have been ignoring it. She says we are not meant to be.

This sudden turn has hit me for six and I don't know what I should do. I'm having sleepless nights and struggling to eat, whereby I feel sick. Please help me sort this out Massi Says: Any break up is difficult. I feel for you as the angst and pain are clear in your words.

However, your ex-girlfriend is very much an 'ex' now. She has made it more than clear that she no longer wishes to be with you.

As difficult as this truth is to accept, you must now take a step back and not communicate with her at all.

When relationships end, they don't always come with warning signs.

Your shock is understandable.

But it is better that your ex has told you about how her feelings have changed for you now, rather than holding back and being unhappily married.

You have to learn to let go of this finished relationship.

Take some time out now for yourself, and focus on what you would like to do in life, on your hopes and dreams.

Be confident about who you are.