Dear MASSI I recently broke up with a long-term boyfriend. My family and cousins knew about our relationship but due to some circumstances we broke up.

Recently, I have been talking to a childhood friend who hadn’t been in contact for over six years.

I explained to him how I wasn’t ready for another relationship, but even with this knowledge he hasn’t changed his behaviour.

The problem is I said no to him just because I think me and my ex still have a chance.

Moreover I was told by my sister that my parents have been asked for my hand in marriage from both my ex and his family. I don’t know what to say. Should I talk to both? Should I stick with my ex. Or should I go with my friend.

I am not madly in love with any of them at the moment.

But I am open to sharing a new bond with wherever life leads me.

MASSI SAYS, This is quite a conundrum that you have drawn yourself into.

You and your boyfriend chose to split, and amicably it seems although you have not divulged the reasons for the break-up. You are clearly confused about your feelings for both men in your life.

Rather than making a hasty decision and ultimately hurting one of these men, I suggest you take a step back, away from any relationship drama.

Give yourself some time for self reflection and ask yourself what it is you want out of life.

Ask yourself why you are even contemplating a relationship when you admit that you are "not madly in love with any of them at the moment."

How about you give the two men and your own choices a bit more respect.