Dear Massi, We have been married for three years now but husband is still not ready to have a baby.
I am 30-years-old and I want to have at least two kids, so I need to start now.
Even my saas has been putting pressure on my husband.
She has already secretly advised me to trick him into getting pregnant.
She even told me to make tiny holes in the condoms.
What shall I do?
I could trick him into having a baby, but I don't want him to resent me or the baby .
Massi Says: This is a conversation that needs to be had between you and your husband alone.
Your mother-in-law's support is all well and good, but her advice of taking covert measures to conceive are not wise.
You cannot approach parenthood that casually.
Neither can you force your husband to be 'ready.'
Sit down and talk to him and explain your maternal instincts.
Your husband hasn't said he doesn't ever want a baby.
Ask him why he feels he is not ready.
It may be financial, or he may worry he doesn't know how to be a father yet.
Either way, a candid conversation with him is in order.
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